You know what the definition of BAD is? It’s being a grown ass man or woman with your own home, job, car, etc. and can’t find anybody to enjoy the blessings of life with. OK so this is also true even if you don’t have any of those wonderful material things. Now do you want to know the definition of WORSE? It’s when you want to do something about it and don’t have the first clue where to begin.

It’s gonna be alright though now because this series of articles will address some of the most common obstacle to finding love.

THE RULES:
For this series I have carefully constructed a set of necessary truths that the reader needs to understand in order for this to work and here they are: “If You Have An Issue – It’s You” – get it? Issue – its you? It sorta rhymes a little bit, ok not really but still… you get my point right? Good. And that concludes our rules. That one rule covers everything. Understand that this rule doesn’t have anything to do with fault or blame; it just says that the responsibility for improving your situation is going to have to come from you. These are not the days of the Knight in Shining Armor so let that dream go & Captain Save A Hoe only works in the lives of Hoes. So now that we have the groundwork in place lets take a look at scenario number one:

I’M SINGLE BECAUSE MY STANDARDS ARE HIGH – this is a common excuse used by women of all categories from the very attractive to the successful to the woman with a LINK card and 6 children. Explanations like this one fall into the group known as ‘Universal Bullshit’ and here’s why: Women who make statements like this one are either delusional or traumatized.

1. Delusional – these women live in the fantasy world where they wake up believing that this will be the day that Donald Trump Jr. is going to come and whisk them away into the lap of luxury -  just like they do on TV. What they fail to realize is that guys like that don’t go to clubs like the “Itchy Booty Bump Bar” or the “Sweaty Titty Lounge” – They don’t ride public transportation & in fact there’s very little possibility that your life paths will ever cross, meanwhile every man you meet will continue to fall short until you’re old and living with a house full of cats, then you’ll get it.

2. Traumatized – somebody in your past has done you wrong and you’re afraid to trust again. NEWSFLASH: 99 out of 95 people have had somebody do them wrong before – it’s called life. You need to live likes its 2011 and no longer 2005, or 4, or whatever year it was that you experienced your hurt. Look at it this way when you meet a man for all you know he could have just been treated like a dog by his ex, but what does that have to do with you & the way you’ll treat him? Not a damn thing & the same goes vice versa. Just because the last guy did you in that has nothing to do with the way the next guy will treat you – they are two entirely different people.

NOTE: if you have had a series of busted relationships where you always end up hurt in the end then you need to change YOUR game plan up. Here’s a hint: when you see a man you like – run the other way & when you see a man that you normally would disregard give HIM a chance. Your people picker is working in reverse, it’s ok just do the opposite of whatever your mind comes up with.

There you have it. The point is that since you are the only person that you have the power to change then you should get busy moving yourself into a more desirable and happy life.

Stay tuned for volume two and be peaceful as you enjoy your journey.