SIGNS THAT A MAN IS REALLY INTO YOU

Love is complicated enough but it gets even more challenging when you consider that in today’s world, communication happens in the blink of an eye and so also does miscommunication. With so many barriers to understanding such as  words misspoken to misinterpretations to weird body language, it just makes sense that people can get confused in the game of love.

Well here’s the Cliff’s Notes version of how to spot the real deal in love. Use these tips as a sure fire method of recognizing when a man is seriously, 100 percent, no doubt about it – into you.

1. Daffodils
He sends you flowers. Wait. Pay close attention, cuz I’m not done yet. I’m not talking about flowers on your birthday, valentine’s day, mother’s day or any of that traditional stuff – I’m talking about flowers for no damn reason after you have already had sex with him a few times.  Note: This is a good rule of thumb with a high degree of accuracy… unless he is a florist (in which case you may have to be on guard for the inevitability of his boyfriend finding out about you) or if he works at a cemetery (in which case feel free to throw up right… about… now.)

2.  Attention
He is always less than five minutes away. If your new prospect lives way across town and you can call him up at 3 o’clock in the morning and he answers his phone sounding wide awake and fresh, that’s a good sign. An even better sign is if you tell him to come over and just as you hang up the phone he starts knocking on your bedroom window.  Many people will misunderstand this type of guy; labeling him a stalker or creep, but a woman with a well trained eye will recognize that he is only walking the walk that many men only talk. Anybody can say ‘I’ll be there for you baby’ but this guy really means it. If you periodically spot his car in your rear view mirror while driving to work, he’s just letting you know that he is paying attention and being on hand in case you need him. I can hear some of you laughing but what I find to be the real joke is that you’d gladly latch on to a man who is the exact opposite of this and then later complain that ‘he never seems to be available for you.’ Choose your poison.  This is a highly effective tool for measuring a man interest level in you with the sole exception of if he’s in his late thirties and you’re about to graduate into high school this summer.

3. Waterfalls
He isn’t afraid to express himself. If your new lover is willing to show his true feelings to you then that’s an indisputable sign that he’s kinda, sorta, really, really diggin you. Case in point: you’re making love and while most men will say things like ‘yeah baby this is great!’ your new lover bursts into tears. Not depressed, funeral home styled crocodile tears, but tears of joy. Hey it’s appropriate to let a few drop when you’re really happy so why can’t he? If you are as ‘bomb’ in the bedroom as you think you are, then most men will probably at least want to shed a few, but only the real free man will have the courage to let it go.  This is a no-brianer unless he is just the emotionally overboard type of man and you can tell because he is the kind of man that is obsessed with watching the Notebook, screams and kicks over tables during American Idol and will punch you in the face if you even speak during the Grammy’s.

4. Rocky Balboa
Winners just do not quit. If your new prospect still calls you after he finds out that you slept with his cousin and his dad. If he still calls you after you gave him two STD’s. If he still wants to date after your baby daddy came over unexpectedly and beat the living shit out of him; if he still claims to love you even though your kids stole his wallet and emptied out his checking and savings account then you have a keeper on your hands. This is the kinda guy that love songs were written about. Think about it: “Ain’t No Mountain High Enough” – this song speaks of a man like this one; one who will put in work on a level that will make the Energizer Bunny look lazy. This is one of the most accurate determiners of a man’s sincerity. It does tend to kinda backfire in cases where the wife dies and the husband digs her body up and keeps her stored in the deep freezer. Sometimes you do have to let go.

Ok well that’s all I have; take what applies and let the rest fly. Good look in your love quest and if all else fails I guess you could always just do the exact opposite of what you’ve always done. That might work since all your past efforts have only resulted in failure…. Hmmm.

Peace and enjoy your journey